Are you tired of losing the “perfect” girl after only the first date? Are you looking for ways to ensure a second date (and hopefully a few more after that)? Whether this is your first first date or your fiftieth, knowing what girls want on that ever-important first date is important. Really important. You have probably figured out that what you do on the first date can make or break the relationship. With that in mind, here are some great tips to help start out right.
Getting “You” Right
Regardless of the activity you choose for your first date, the girl you are going with will most likely spend a great deal of time thinking about and preparing for the date. She will have planned her outfit with care, accessorized appropriately, and made herself look perfect just for you. The least you can do is make sure you’ve spent some time on your appearance as well.
Dress Appropriately. If you’re headed to a nicer restaurant, don’t show up in a team logo t-shirt and a pair of jeans. Think about the event and decide what you have to wear that complements the occasion without being too loud or making a statement. Then, make sure your choice is clean and neat looking ahead of time.
Know Your Manners. Believe it or not, girls appreciate manners. If you have been hanging out mostly with other guys lately, it’s likely that you need to brush up a bit on your social skills. Remember that politeness and being a gentleman is a valuable characteristic in a girl’s eyes. It never hurts to hold open a door, wait to speak until you have swallowed your food, or let her take the lead in the conversation sometimes from time to time. And whatever you do, silence your phone and ignore it.
Be Genuine. I know that it may seem to be a bit of an oxymoron after suggesting that you dress appropriately and mind your manners, but really, be who you are. A girl does not want a false front on that first date that will quickly crumble when you become comfortable with her. Don’t show off and be overly macho just to impress. No girl wants to date a phony. Be real, guys.
Planning the Date
What should you do on that first date? This is the age old question, and it is not one that can be answered with a one-size-fits-all solution. After all, every girl is different. Hopefully, you’ve taken a bit of time to study the girl before you asked her out. What does she like? Would it be a treat for her to go to a classical music concert, or is a rodeo more her style? A semi-nice restaurant and a movie? One great rule to follow is that a first date activity must lend itself to time for conversation while also having some form of distraction to take away from the awkwardness of “firsts.” A first date needs to be as relaxed and comfortable as possible.
Event Ideas – If you are at a loss for ideas, here are a few tried and true first date venues: the theater (classier than a movie, yet still relaxing), the bowling alley, an aquarium, an art gallery, festival or tourist attraction (even if you are locals), ice-skating rink (if she doesn’t know how, it’s a great excuse to hold her hand), or a trendy or ethnic restaurant, just to be a bit different.
Transportation – This is where guys can have a bit of fun. After all, what guy doesn’t like showing off his wheels to a new girl? However, be mindful of the kind of girl you are going for. A preppy, designer-brand woman may not appreciate your jacked-up pickup, but that same truck may melt the heart of a cowboy-boot-wearing country girl. If a cool, zippy car is more up your alley, check out these classics.
Corvette Stingray – With 460 horsepower at your command and the ability to go from 0 to 60 in 3.8 seconds, you are sure to feel powerful behind the wheel. Just remember that your girl may not be used to the speeds you are capable of!
Ford Mustang – This car will be enjoying its 50th anniversary in 2014, making it a sweet choice if you’re hoping for a lasting relationship. With top speeds of 135 mph, you will be putting your relationship on the fast track, whether you travel with the top up or enjoy the night breezes with a convertible top down. Just don’t get caught speeding through town! No girl likes her date to wind up in the clinker, especially on the first date.
Jaguar F-Type – Why not go all out with a zippy Jaguar convertible? Sleek and sexy, the 2014 models have top-rated audio systems, helping you to create the perfect atmosphere while cruising along at speeds of up to 161 mph.
Regardless of the car you choose, make sure it reflects who you are. You may not own the Jaguar, but maybe that is who you would like to be. If you are a cowboy at heart and are after someone who has the same interests, let your choice of wheels reflect that.
While the car may seem important to you, don’t stress about it if you don’t have what you think is ideal. Any relationship is better off when built on who you are, not who you’d like to be. Maybe you’re the type of guy who saves his money, lives frugally and is debt-free. Trust me, being debt-free is a huge stress-reliever for any relationship, helps build trust and financial peace. You don’t have to be driving the coolest car or truck in town to get the girl!
Go for It!
You’ve taken the plunge and asked her out. You are prepared and have brushed up on your manners. Now, don’t be shy and hesitant. Women appreciate men who take leadership of the date, who are prepared, and who show that they thought about the woman’s interests ahead of time by presenting a small gift. Have a great evening, and here’s to many more to come!
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Emily Turberville-Tully, a creative writer for HR Owen, is married to the man of her dreams. While she previously owned an interior design company, Emily now happily spends her time designing and decorating her own home while raising her two young sons.